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Who among us can say that they haven’t sat in front of a computer screen for hours, playing armchair psychologist while trying to diagnose a friend, lover, family member—or themselves—with some kind of mental illness?
If you have a job that involves researching stuff on the internet, a propensity toward hypochondria, or a deep-seated fear of betrayal, this is probably something you’ve been guilty of at one point or another. We as humans love to categorize and to pathologize. But the reality is that, while every individual may contain traces of a number of diagnosable personality disorders, this doesn’t mean they actually have the disorder.
It would seem, based on my own experience as an armchair psychologist, that personality disorders exist on a spectrum and are defined by characteristics possessed by all people, only in excess—so this makes diagnosis a pretty slippery business that should probably just be left to professionals. Sorry.
That said, it’s smart to know how to identify the signs that you’re being jerked around by someone with a disorder that blunts their capacity to experience empathy or treat you like a human being—for example, a narcissist.